Children are not always happy or easily taken care of, and as a parent, you'll be aware that some days are more difficult than others. However, if it's starting to appear as if your child is more than you can handle, you and your spouse might want to enlist a child psychologist's help. Here are some situations that may necessitate reaching out to a professional.
Your Child's Behavior Has Changed Rapidly
One sign that a psychologist could be needed is that your child's behavior is markedly changing. In some cases, it could be that they're regressing somewhat. For example, if your child hasn't wet the bed for months, and all of a sudden they're waking up with wet sheets, that's a problem. Your mild-mannered child might start having wild outbursts. The child that was once bubbly and friendly could turn quiet and tell you that everyone hates them. Changes are sometimes ignored or seen as part of growing up, but it's vital that you pay close attention to big shifts in behavior that seem to come out of nowhere. A psychologist can help you figure out what's going on.
Your Family Seems to Be "Ruled" by Your Child
If everything in your family starts to revolve around one person, that can mean frustration and discomfort for everyone else. Your other kids might start making angry comments about how their needs aren't being met because you're always paying attention to the one child with problems. You may find yourself scheduling family activities according to your child's moods or having to change plans because of one child's behavior. If your household seems like it's "ruled" by them, you're likely to need professional help to start changing that.
Your Child Is Hurting Themselves or Focusing on Death
Of particular concern when dealing with a troubled child is their safety. If your child lashes out, hits walls or is squeezing their fists so tightly that nails are breaking the skin, they need help right away. Even if you don't see any signs that they are cutting themselves or inflicting pain, it's important to remain aware of the kind of speech they use. If they talk about wanting to disappear or die and seem preoccupied with the topic, that could also be an enormous red flag. Even art with violent themes might be worth talking to a professional about.
If you're beginning to notice that your child is doing some or all of the things above, it's time to seriously consider a child psychologist. Talk with some psychologists in the area; they can explain how treatment might benefit your child and family.
After developing a chronic physical illness, I soon began realizing that the disease plagued my mind almost more than it did my body. While my illness is not life-threatening, it was very difficult accepting that I would have to take medication for the rest of my life and eat a strict diet. After a year of depression, I finally overcame my fear of "exposing" my feelings to others and made an appointment with a mental health counselor. With her help, I was able to see the "silver linings" in life that I had greatly taken for granted before I became ill. I now encourage anyone who is battling an illness of any type to seek the psychological help they need. I plan to post lots of little mental health tips and tricks on my new blog along with advice for choosing a good counselor. Please come back soon!